Dear Amy: I’ve been with my girlfriend “Crissy” for almost two years. We live together and are in our mid-20′s.
We have both been working and have been able to pay our expenses and even save a little money toward getting a better apartment.
Crissy quit her job just before Christmas because she felt the environment was toxic and she basically hated her job. I don’t blame her for hating her job – at all. I would have hated it, too.
Unfortunately, she quit before she had looked for a new job and now it is over three months later and she hasn’t looked at all. We have gone through our savings and I can just barely pay our expenses.
Crissy now says that she would like to be a “stay-at-home girlfriend.” She doesn’t want to work.
I am not sure what to do.
Any ideas?
– Tired Boyfriend
Dear Tired: We all want to be a “stay-at-home girlfriend.” But life does not work that way.
“Chrissy” is not a good partner to you. Furthermore, she doesn’t want to be a good partner to you. I think it’s time to break up.
Dear Amy: “Pondering Papa in the Pacific Northwest” has every right and should tell his daughter that she and her boyfriend must sleep in separate rooms during a visit.
The mother seems a little too delighted that her daughter is “sleeping around.” That’s why she is allowing it.
– Protective Dad
Dear Protective: The huge response to this question has revealed quite a double standard: The house belongs to the father and the daughter’s sexuality belongs to the mother.
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